When you love someone
Whether its a family member, a friend or a lover
You don’t measure their abuse
Because you’re constantly letting them off the hook
And forgiving them
Hoping that one day they will see the light
And turn their behaviour around
But if you keep forgiving them
Over and over
They just think that they can walk all over you
Any time they want
That they can get away with it
That you wont complain
And that it’s acceptable
That’s why you have to respect yourself
More
Than they do
Otherwise you become the underdog
The whole time
Even if you take the higher ground
Like attracts Like
And it will compromise you
To become just like them
So ultimately you have no choice but to walk away
Hard as it is
When you love someone
But you have no choice but to love yourself more
Enough at least to see the difference…
To deserve someone who shares your high standards
Love is a higher vibration
That requires wiser choices
So love someone who loves you back the same
Is the only true path to happiness
You love better when you love yourself. True love will tell you to stand up and fight for the relationship you deserve. True love wears garments of equality, mutual support, trust and companionship. If you let a poisoned love take root and grow, you are not showing true love either to you or to your lover. If a true relationship cannot be nurtured and grow, even if you have to fight for it and push your lover to change, it may be the season to love yourself and walk away.
When you love someone, you must love yourself too. True love wears long-lasting and comforting garments of openness, mutual support, trust and companionship. Letting a poisoned love take root and grow is not good for you or your lover. True love will bid you fight for change, change your relationship and if a true relationship cannot be found, then love yourself and walk away.
“To evolve through Love is the greatest spiritual teaching on Earth,
from personal, through transpersonal, to unconditional and Universal,
a conscious choice, everyday,
there really is only ONE way forwards,
everything else
is resistance.”
(From: Holiness of the Heart :: http://ipoem.co.uk/2009/11/13/holiness/)
If the sponsoring thought for ones choice of partner is Love
then it is a higher calling and a spiritual path,
even if the sponsoring thought for their choices is not heart-centered,
yours is
and there is a valuable lesson to be learned
even if that lesson is simply to better maintain and assert ones boundaries
or to make wiser choices and move the goal posts…
often we only get to realise what we truly desire or deserve
by experiencing what we do not want…
(See ‘Is Not Is’ :: http://ipoem.co.uk/1997/11/10/is-not-is/)
If one is ruled by the intellect,
the mind will over rationalise and engage the ego,
which seeks to dominate or manipulate a situation in order to appear in control.
The more vulnerable an individual feels the greater the need for control.
Sometimes one can see that ones beloved’s choices or intentions
are not wholly honourable,
yet when seen through eyes of compassion
one is able to forgive their error in judgement,
so as to afford them another opportunity to grow
and to get it right next time,
unconditionally,
and so sometimes in situations like these
it can be hard to let go
even when you know that it is time,
because one can still see the dormant undiluted potential with them,
yet to be realised by their own self.
The challenge in this case then,
is to stay in the present moment,
rather than holding out for a potential future that may or may not happen,
for an individual reserves the right NOT to awaken,
to not fulfill ones true potential in this life time,
as it is the gift of choice and free will,
the choice to surrender to the will of heaven
or the choice to resist ones growth and stay the same
in ones familiar old comfort zones.
However, refusing to give up on someone
even when they are a sinking ship and a danger to themselves
invariably can sink ones own ship in the process…
a risk assessment has to be made at some point
lest one harms oneself in the process of trying to help another.
Unless they are willing to do the work to help themselves it can be a lost cause…
but only through the process of trial and error
can one determine whether or not this process is a worthy one…
Ultimately it is the call of the heart
that lures us to stay in situations one would not normally stay in
and a test of faith to see how far one will go in the name of love…
nothing is ever lost,
whatever one has put in over the years will come back,
via another source…
be open to new ways of receiving…
what is yours will come to you…
‘Potential’ :: http://ipoem.co.uk/2009/03/25/potential/
Have tidied the above comment up a bit and turned it into a blog post of its own, thanks for inspiring this response =)
This particular blog post, “Walk Away | iPoem’s Blog” was very good. I’m generating out a duplicate to demonstrate to my personal friends. Thank you-Leta