Humans are complex emotional beings. If our emotions don’t make any sense to us then they sure as hell wont make any sense to anyone else either and that’s why we have to honnour them, in order to release them.
Stuck, or blocked emotions cause anxiety and neurotic-behaviours, and also causes dis-ease in the mind and body.
The body is a metaphor for how we think and feel and our bodies respond to habitual emotional patterns, including feelings that are under-acknowledged and suppressed, or unchecked internal-dialogue, perhaps on constant rewind.
If a health-issue arises, either physical or mental, it is our body’s way of asking us to pay greater attention and to listen.
But also these emotions demand that we engage our ‘Right-Hemispheres’ of our brains to better understand them, acknowledge them, befriend them, and work with them.
It is generally accepted that we human beings only use around 10% of our brain’s total capacity and that is only usually the left-side that deals with language, literacy, numeracy, and the perception of ‘The Self’ and the ‘I’.
The left-hemisphere perceives information through a sense of ‘individuation’ as a separate entity often in competition with one another.
The right-hemisphere deals with the parts of our natures associated with the intuitive, creative, subconscious, and it is this side that deeply desires a sense of connection as it perceives sensory information and feelings through the lens of ‘unity’ and ‘co-operation’ with a natural desire to belong and feel connected not just to each other, such as family members, partners, and children, but also to the community, society, animals, nature, the planet, the eco-system, the cosmos, the source, etc., thereby experiencing a deep sense of commitment to communicating inner-peace and compassion.
When the desire to connect is denied it can cause a sense of displacement, exclusion, alienation and resistance. Fear is the division of unity. Fear separates. Love unites.
By engaging our ‘Right Hemispheres’ of our brains, we are able to ‘let go’ of the fear of separation and any previously inherited belief-systems (such as cultural-tradition, religious-programming, institutionalised brain-washing, family-upbringing, political-indoctrination, educational-conditioning, expected societal norms, etc.), in order to make heart-supported choices at any given moment in time, that are pro-unity.
This mental-liberation and emotional-emancipation enables one to live fully in the present moment, unbound by restrictions, limitations, rules, or fears imposed by ones mind.
These impositions are caused by the dominion of the left-hemisphere of the brain over the right-hemisphere, where ones head continually over-rules ones heart, where logic is continually prioritised over intuition, where one places too much emphasis on the words ‘should have’, ‘could have’ and ‘would have’.
An inactive, or passive ‘right-hemisphere’ can result in an over-assertion of the ‘ego-mind’ as it seeks to validate itself as right, in control, or superior, through a polarised perspective of itself.
This over-assertion also has a tendency to over-think or reinvent situations, and sequences of events, from the past in order to avoid taking responsibility for having attracted, or co-created them, often portraying oneself as the hero, heroine, or the innocent victim, instead of examining ones emotions objectively to update and eliminate outmoded thought patterns and inappropriate behaviour, so that one may become fully present, alive and vital, in the ‘Here and Now’, focusing on what one does want to attract more of, rather than focusing upon what one doesn’t have, or is no longer appropriate for who one is becoming.
Focus ones attention on what is working in ones life and what one wants more of, rather than upon what isn’t working and wants less of.
For each present moment is a gift to be reborn anew through the process of becoming ‘mindful‘, (both hemispheres working together), as opposed to being mindless (one hemisphere operating alone at only 10% capacity).
If we are continually re-running old highlights, echos, and painful narratives from past events then one can never move on, or discover ones true potential while ones ego is constantly distracted and preoccupied with old ghosts, flash backs and illusions from the past or fears about the future.
There has to come a point when adversity reaches it’s extreme limit activating the law of cyclic reversal where one makes a conscious choice to make a clean break from past events in order to create space for new more desirable experiences. Again this requires work. Such as letting go of ‘how’ and ‘but’ – constructs of the ego – in order to surrender to the grand design.
Being absent from the present (absent minded) robs one of a true present (where one plants the right seeds for the right future), instead planting the wrong seeds for a wrong future by re-running repetitive inner dialogue, or distress tapes from the past, and through not making heart-supported choices, in the present moment, such as not following ones heart and maybe doing what ones logic thinks one should do instead.
When the ego-mind (left hemisphere) is unsupported by heart-centered choices (right-hemisphere) it craves constant instant gratification and ‘short-term pay-offs’, to avoid dealing with a backlog of emotions, or to manipulate events for desired personal gain outcomes, and in so doing displaying a blatant disregard for the larger order, the grand design, and the long-term effects or consequences of ones choices and actions.
This can manifest as narcissism, delusions of self-grandeur, excessive self-interest, greediness; ie: an inability to share, a desire for constant attention, to be admired, displays of antisocial, hedonistic, abusive, overly controlling, or neurotic behaviours, OCD, ADHD, etc. These are all symptoms that the mind is languishing out of balance and is suffering on some level, which if left unchecked can lead to physical dis-ease and life-threatening conditions.
An inability to make heart-supported choices for oneself or others for example can lead to heart-conditions such as coronary artery disease.
This is where the heart-center begins to close down as the left-hemisphere takes control over the mind’s choices, disregarding the call of the heart as important, or necessary for health and survival.
Joy becomes replaced by anxiety, a need for rules, routines, procedures, methodologies, and a list of ‘must do’s‘ and ‘should have done’s’.
It can also lead to addictions. Addictions are adopted when one feels inwardly-disconnected or dissatisfied, as one searches for a crutch to feel re-connected and unified.
But filling an inner-need through outward activities can only ever achieve a temporary source of gratification, which expires and before long requires another ‘hit’ and as the cycle is repeated the gratification sought becomes less and less satisfying as one needs another sip, another bite, another toke, another turn, and generally more of whatever it is one has become addicted to.
Addictions do not have to be substances, for example it can be an addiction to work, a pastime or a person. Work, or other pursuits can be used as ‘avoidance mechanisms’ to avoid dealing with unwelcome feelings, uncomfortable emotional issues, pressing situations and may be described as an ’emotional unavailability’.
This leads to the suppression of ones true feelings. They can also become disguised underneath layers of other old emotions that have become stuck or suppressed, and are hard to identify, sometimes misidentified as something else entirely, which are stored in the body so that the body may serve as a metaphor for what is really going on emotionally and psychologically in order to flag up certain areas for attention.
The reason for why the body does this is because this is the only way that the body can communicate to us what it needs, and a crisis in the body is generally the most effective way of our paying greater attention to those needs and making the necessary changes.
Due to the level of internal separation caused by daily outer distractions and life in general, we regularly ignore our body’s best efforts to attract our attention and we carry on regardless, often to the point of critical.
However, practicing self-care is also a form of self-love. Not harming oneself through neglect, the build up of negativity, toxins or habitual unhealthy patterns.
A balanced mind is where both left and right hemispheres are co-operating in unison, providing a sense of inner-well being that relieves tension and creates a sense of internal-peace that is independent of external events, or outside circumstances, situations, things or a person, and therefore is both stable and enduring.
Essentially this hemispherical-union is the source of longterm emotional strength that may weather all sorts of external challenges.
Inner-peace is where we monitor our internal-dialogue and turn any inner-tyrants into inner-best friends. Acknowledging and giving thanks for the present moment is generally a good start.
This sense of inner-wellbeing then enables an individual to contribute to communal wellbeing, and the maintenance of collective peace through an extension of ones mindfulness towards ones family members, other people and the natural environment.
This is how one person can make a conscious difference. And how collective communities of conscious individuals may make significant contributions to world peace.
However Peace doesn’t just happen, one must endeavor to maintain this state of inner-hemispherical-union through a form of regular practice.
This could be achieved through meditation, yoga, Buddhist chanting, Tai chi, dance, breath work or something that encourages the emotional evolution through mental focus or involves an individual as part of a group activity.
Growth and maturity is achieved through the cultivation of a more loving mind, via more loving ways of both thinking and operating that begins with and then extends way beyond the self. Often assisted by humour and a sense of playfulness.
On a personal level, this conscious directive, utilisation of ones heart with mind to problem solve and contribute, automatically places one in a position to attract more of what one desires into ones life.
The law of attraction is where one automatically magnetises serendipitous circumstances, situations and people by operating in accord with the natural scientific and harmonic process of homeostasis.
Homeostasis is the built-in, self-regulating scientific default, natural law of process and balance that applies to all life, our bodies, birth and death, the land, the air, the oceans, the forests, the planets, the solar system, infinite space, all of Nature, the Source of all of creation and the sustainable nourishment of all that exists.
When one attains inner-peace and harmony through a regular daily practice that supports an inner-hemispherical-union, one automatically aligns with this natural law of homeostatic balance that already exists, (without the presence of human beings, without the prejudice of judgment, or projected belief systems, and without enforced man-made laws), and when this connection within becomes externalised without, in alignment with universal law of homeostasis, then ones inherent connection with the ‘All There Is’ becomes activated and this is the liberating expansiveness of all-encompassing Love that knows no boundaries or limitations.
Everything and everyone has a right to be here, because she/he /it exists. There is no higher or lower status for the elevation of love is all-encompassing.
The expansiveness of unconditional, transpersonal, universal and divine Love stems from a non-personal acceptance and tolerance for ones emotionally vulnerable-self and therefore the emotionally vulnerable inner-selves of others.
It is a fortification of emotional strength and self-belief via restoring ones natural connection to the Source of all of creation, and Source of Love, that erases any sense of vulnerability. And this ability to fortify an emotional inner-strength enables one to extend self-respect and self-love to other human beings as compassion and empathy, and also towards the animal kingdom and the natural world, even in the face of adversity, seeing all beings and creatures as unique individuals rather than as objects.
Conditional love is when one withdraws ones love if a person or the object of ones affections, does not repsond in a pre-desired outcome.
Unconditional love is where one loves a person in spite of them self even if they do not respond in the preferred method, because ones self esteem is not dependent upon ones affections being returned by other people. One already loves and approves of oneself and has achieved a level of emotional responsibility that does not require others to bend to ones will.
Humanity’s destiny is to evolve beyond the gratification of the ego, beyond the comfort-zone, beyond manipulation and control and to evolve through the many layers and higher echelons of Love’s elevations.
One can develop self-respect, self-confidence, and a deeper sense of self-love by connecting with the presence of Nature, nature is always in the present moment, without fear or regret and also through the honnouring of ones unique gifts, talents and skills which help us to stay fully present.
Each individual has a unique skill-set and this is how one can excel and celebrate being different, unique and special whilst also contributing to and being part of the collective.
It is the incorporation and inclusion of one another’s uniquenesses, as ‘ones own-self’ that is key, by contributing to and experiencing genuine pleasure for another’s well-being, progress, love, happiness and success, as one would for ones own well-being, progress, love, happiness and success, knowing that in expressing gratitude for another’s beneficent development, one is also contributing to and magnetising more of what one truly desires (and deserves) for ones own self in the process.
Trying to destroy what someone else has, destroys ones ability to attract and magnetise this for ones self too. It is in fact a demonstration of a belief in ‘lack’. And also a belief that one is unworthy enough to deserve or manifest what someone else has for them self. Taking from others to give to oneself supports a belief in lack. This belief is nonsense as there is an abundance of opportunity for everyone to succeed and to experience longterm happiness alongside one another.
Negative thoughts towards another, are merely reflections highlighting areas where one requires more love from ones own inner-self. Demanding love from another without giving it to oneself first is codependant, needy and emotionally unattractive. When one loves oneself enough, a particular person or a situation will no longer serve as a trigger for ones belief in lack.
The true nature of spiritual reality is that there is no separation between individuals. Separation between people is an illusion.
Physical matter may expire, (for example our bodies) but energy (such as ones life force, or soul) cannot be destroyed, it simply changes form.
Despite our unique and different envelopes to our souls, we are in fact, all holographic fragments of the one-soul, the ‘All There Is’, the ‘Source of All Creation’, the ‘One-Love’, the God-force, chip off the old block, made in God’s own likeness, so to speak, all of us, therefore what one does or says to someone else, effectively one is also doing and saying to ones own self, and also unto the source of creation. Hence what goes around comes around.
In fact how ones internal dialogue speaks to oneself whilst one is alone in ones own company, is exactly how one speaks to other people and loved ones.
Therefore if one is not practicing self-love one is actually unconsciously practicing self-depreciation, which one in turn projects onto others, (mostly without realising), which is more often than not reflected right back. A catch 22 no-win situation.
Therefore it is our duty to know ourselves, like ourselves, accept ourselves, respect ourselves, forgive ourselves and love ourselves as much as one can in this life time, in order to avoid subjecting others and the environment to ones inner demons, neuroses, mental dis-ease and ignorance.
This involves taking responsibility for the entire spectral array of ones feelings including difficult intense emotions, learning to handle, manage and deal with them effectively.
And once one has learned how to do this then to help other people to figure this out for themselves too, for until we do the animal kingdom and the natural environment doesn’t stand a hope in hells chance of survival. And neither do we.
Not while everyone is so self-obsessed with ones own self-interest, desires, expectations, demands, grievances, status, appearance, job title, fame, getting wasted, consuming the world’s resources into oblivion, development opportunity, amassing a fiscal income and as much profit as possible per quarter with jack shit responsibility towards how that profit is acquired, as money driven choices that are not heart-supported generally tend to have a detrimental effect upon the environment and the community.
Therefore, what each corporation needs to do from now on is: become fully responsible for making ecologically-sustainable business choices that support the environment rather than destroy and deplete it.
And what the world’s governments need to do is: provide cash incentive rewards for those corporations that do take responsibility, not just for their carbon foot print but for the future sustainability of all life on earth, thereby leading by example to so the rest of the world’s countries follow suit asap.
For while we are still so busy distracting ourselves with capitalism, and consumerism, and alcohol and computer games, and raising and killing animals for the food industry, and decimating the rain forest, and fracking, and palm oil, and big pharma industry, and GMO foods, and over fishing the oceans, with two plastic islands the size of Texas, CO2 emissions from methane gas (cow dung) which happens to be more than all of transportation combined, lingering in the air for 150 years, and imigration, and terrorism, and war, and too much to mention here, etc etc., in the mean time, the Worlds wild life population has decreased by 50% just since 1970.
By 2035 there will be no wildlife, and no rain forest, no fish in the ocean, and no clean drinking water, it’ll just be one big polluted mess and the imminent demise of yet another civilisation that thought it was just so great but actually was unbelievably dumb.
In order to give the natural world and the planet the care, consideration, love, respect and protection that She deserves; we need to be able to see beyond the polarised myopic view of the ego-mind, and the ‘I Am’ and the ‘I want’ and the ‘I’m alright jack get your own ladder’ and ‘I need to eat meat’ mentality, in order to see that we are in fact each of us co-curators of Planet Earth and the natural world.
We are all co-curators of the planet, the animal kingdom, the natural habitat and each other, and this is our real purpose here: To love oneself responsibly enough to extend self-love and self-care not just to one other but also to the entire planet and all her creatures and inhabitants, as one would love oneself, if only people would love themselves enough in the first place to understand and see that the real planet is within, each and everyone one of us.
So love yourself, love each other and love the planet. Co-curators unite!
Further reading: True Role of the Ego – http://ipoem.co.uk/2012/11/18/the-ego/
Align Right – http://ipoem.co.uk/2015/05/31/align-right/