On what would’ve been Nelson Mandela’s 96th birthday what better way to demonstrate with his quote how ‘Forgive’ precipitates ‘Forget’.
In order to be able to forget the past and painful emotions one has no choice but to extend forgiveness first for the simple reason that until one forgives one cannot forget. Forgiveness initiates being able to forget. Being able to let go. Being able to heal.
There is no forgetting without forgiveness first.
Forgiveness is the initiation.
An inability to extend forgiveness forces one to stay imprisoned within the confines of ones own mind on constant rewind, going over and over old ground like a black and white rerun.
The ego-mind will convince a person that they are justified but this neediness to ‘be right’ is an illusion of separation and it will keep a person locked in a vice like grip of self-righteous, self-important, self-obsession, only ever seeing situations through the polarised lens of Self, further endorsing a sense of separation.
This is an example of how over-dwelling upon the past can rob one of a true present and deny access to a desired future by planting the wrong seeds for the wrong future in the pastures of the present moment, instead of the right ones.
Happiness, freedom, mental emancipation and forgiveness are all states of mind.
And the mind requires vigilant work to stay healthy.
“Life has become immeasurably better since I have been forced to stop taking it seriously.”
― Hunter S. Thompson
“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”
― Henry James
If your mind is causing you grief there is a Zen Buddhist by the name of Thích Nhất Hạnh who is a Vietnamese monk, teacher, author, poet, and peace activist, who can offer simple effective guidance and tools on how to train the mind and embrace the art of forgiveness.
Nhất Hạnh has published more than 100 books, traveled and taught around the world, and was nominated by Martin Luther King Jr. for the Nobel Peace Prize in 1967.
Because ‘Forgiveness’ is an art. It is an important step towards self-love and peace on earth. Peace is every step. It is ones inner peace reflected outwardly. However, without forgiveness there is no inner peace. And instead of reflecting inner peace one projects ones inner conflict.
Everything is connected. When in doubt keep bringing oneself back to ones breath. Breathe in peace. Breath out conflict. Breathe in Love. Breathe out conflict. Breathe in forgiveness. Breath out conflict.
The breath is what connects all life. Everything that lives must breathe. The breath is what connects us to consciousness and is why it is is often associated with ‘mindfulness’ as it can assist with becoming fully present.
However I ask that the breath be used to connect up ones heart with ones right brain, (read: Stroke of Insight by Dr Jill Bolte Taylor) so that the left hemisphere of the brain is supported by a connection to the cosmos and to each other at any given moment. Balance of the left/right hemispheres by engaging the heart. This means tuning out the ever present inner chatter so that one can listen to ones intuition.
If people can start being responsible for what they think and how they think and why they think, then this is a step towards taking responsibility towards each other, and all of creation.
For the simple reason that conflict is not sustainable.